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Embracing Child-free Fab
Life is crazy, and making a decision about having kids is like the ultimate adulting dilemma. It's not just a decision; it's a lifestyle, a journey, and it's as epic as a K-drama finale. So here's the real tea on why I've decided to embrace the child-free life, and trust me, it's not just because I'm not ready to give up my sleep-filled nights.
Freedom
First and foremost, it's all about the freedom. Financial freedom is the name of the game, and I'm not about to break my life. I can treat myself without worrying about saving for college funds. Have you seen the price of education these days? It's like choosing between adobong pusit and a lifetime supply of sardinas, and you bet I'm always choosing adobong pusit, syempre. Also, the serenity of a child-free existence! No 3 AM cries or temper tantrums in the grocery store. I can binge-watch my favorite series without worrying about waking up a sleeping baby or, worse, getting side-eyed by other parents for my questionable life choices.
The Environmental Crusade
Being child-free is not just a personal choice; it's an environmental crusade. Overpopulation is like the elephant in the room, and being child-free is our way of saying, "Hey, let's keep it real, guys!" Every child-free choice is a step towards a more sustainable future. And can't you see the climate change? I can't imagine kung ano na lang ang mararanasan ng future generations about the climate change.
I feel sad for them. As a child-free on a mission, I'm all about saving the planet. It's not just about us; it's about the bigger picture. One less tiny human means fewer diapers clogging up landfills and less strain on Mother Earth.
Taking Styled Selfishness to the Next Level
Now, some people might call it selfish, but I call it embracing the perks of being child-free. I want the freedom to do anything I want at my own pace, and trust me, it's not just about avoiding diaper changes. One of my life goals is to become the ultimate jet-setter in the coming years. I'm talking about first-class flights, Instagram-worthy destinations, and living my best life. Also, I'm on a mission
to heal my inner child—a journey that deserves undivided attention. Ang daming nangyari sa ating mga inner selves growing up, and now, it's time to give that little kiddo inside me some serious TLC.
Boss Moves in the Child-Free Lane
People think na those without kids are just living the easy, breezy life. Pero, let's dive into the fab world of the child-free lifestyle and uncover the responsibilities that come with it—responsibilities not just to ourselves but to the entire world and its inhabitants. After all, being child-free isn't a free pass to live a life of zero commitments. There's this common misconception that child-free peeps are carefree and living a life of indulgence. We've got our own set of responsibilities. It's not just about brunch dates and
Netflix binging (though those are essentials, too). We're contributing members of society and we're making our mark in style. Sa mga nagsasabi na child-free equals carefree lang, well, think again. We're out here slaying responsibilities, improving ourselves, and living life on our own terms. Please, okay lang maging chismosa pero wag naman maging pakialamera. Choose only one profession. Haha!
The Hope for Normalization
I dream of a day when being child-free in the Philippines to be normalize. Whatever the reason—be it the chaos of the world, personal ambitions, or just not vibing with the whole parenting script—it should be validated. Hindi naman kailangan magconform sa life script ng society na “kailangan daw magkaroon ng anak.” Hindi naman kailangan magkaroon ka ng anak para maramdaman mo na may purpose ka dito sa mundo. Kung sa tingin mo masaya ka sa pagiging child-free, gawin mo. We don't need anyone's approval. Being child-free doesn't make you less of a man or woman; it makes you a boss. It's about choosing a path that resonates with your happiness and purpose. We're not defined by societal expectations; we're defined by our unapologetic pursuit of joy and fulfillment.
Peer and family pressure lang naman talaga kalaban mo dito madalas. Kasi, let’s be realistic kahit sabihin mo na ayaw mo magkaanak (due to own reasons) some days you get to imagine those "what ifs" and dun papasok yung tanong na kaya mo bang bumuhay ng isa pang nilalang sa mundo kahit ikaw sa sarili mo hindi mo nga kayang tustusan dahil sa responsibilidad sa buhay. People who are in their almost 30's or even in 30's nowadays are more on practicality. Though, sabi ng iba kapag andun ka na, you will do anything for your kids. Pero we all know hindi masarap ang buhay, ‘di bale sana kung lahat tayo anak ni Small Laude na smooth lahat ng bagay. And for me, imagining my kids crying over something because hindi ko ’yun mabigay, masakit yun sa puso- so I chose to be child-free na lang.
Pero, syempre hindi natin maiiwasan ang mapanghusgang society. Alam mo yun, ang daming chismosa, 'di ba? The questions, the judgments – it's time na to tackle them head-on. The "Who Will Take Care of You When You're Old" Saga. Society loves to drop this bomb, but guess what? I'm building my own squad of fabulous friends who will be sipping those drinks with me on a beach somewhere when we're old and wrinkly. Who needs kids when you have a squad like that? Imagine mo, we'll be sipping Chuckie and Yakult, sharing all the chismis na nangyari sa buhay natin, and enjoying the sunset kahit na sagad na sa kulubot ang balat natin. Walang kids na mag-aalala for us because we got each other. Sino may sabi na kailangan ng anak para maging happy pagtanda? Hello, we're rewriting the script, and we're doing it with flair and a touch of elegance. So, sa mga nagsasabing, "Who will take care of you when you're old?" Well, we say,
"We've got a squad for that, and we're aging fabulously."
The Uncertain Future
But hey, I'm not closing any doors. While I savor the present, future remains a teaser, isang puzzle na gusto kong i-solve. Child-free path gives me liberty to shape my destiny na walang iniisip na expectations ng pagiging parent. Now, about changing my plans – it's not a matter of 'if' but 'when.' Aaminin ko na things might evolve, priorities might change, at yung mga pangarap ko puwedeng mag-shapeshift. A child-free life is a journey, not a destination. It's not a commitment to a static destination but a commitment to a dynamic journey. The child-free life is a canvas in progress, isang masterpiece na lalabas pa lang. Sana maging as vibrant and exciting as the life I've chosen to live, child-free and full of endless possibilities.
The Heartfelt Revelation
I've made this life-altering decision to be child-free, and it's not just about avoiding the chaos of parenting – it's a conscientious choice. You see, I don't want my hypothetical kids to suffer in a world where people can be rude, climate change is wreaking havoc, and every thing is getting more expensive. Plus, have you seen the price tag on raising a child? It's like ordering fifty different album versions of Red Velvet, but for the rest of my life. Don't get me wrong, I genuinely love kids. I'm here cheering for my friends, who are knee-deep in diapers and baby bottles. I'm genuinely happy for them, but having a child of my own? Financially, mentally, and emosyonal-ly, I'm not ready. I refuse to pass on my unresolved childhood trauma like a family heirloom. Let's get real about family-building. It wasn't a walk in the park for us '90s kids. Our parents hustled hard, banat ng buto since bata, nakitira sa kamag-anak, and nagsumikap to give us the lives we're living now. I don't want this narrative of struggle to pass on to the next generation. I refuse to raise kids just to make them my retirement plan. And, girl, please spare me with the "sayang ang lahi mo" drama. I mean, come on! I'm not as brainy as Einstein, and I'm not as stunning as Irene from Red Velvet to be spreading my genes like confetti. I can't deal with the "tumatanda ka na" comment sometimes during family gatherings. Please lang, huwag kayong maging director sa telenovela ng buhay ko. It's not a drama series; it's my fabulous life.
Living the Rich, Cool Tita-Ninang Dream
Child-rearing is not for everyone. Not everyone is financially, mentally, and emotionally stable, prepared, or willing to do so. If you ever decide to bear children, I hope it won’t be about you. It should be about your child. After all, that is what parenthood is all about: to care; to nurture; to be selfless.
Just like in the MCU, life is full of epic choices and unexpected twists. In the MCU, heroes and villains make decisions that shape their destinies. Choosing to be child-free is our way of writing our own unique story. It's about making bold moves and embracing the freedom to live our best lives.
And speaking of bold moves, let's not forget Barangay Ginebra of the PBA. Their never-say-die spirit is a perfect metaphor for tackling life’s challenges head-on. Whether you're assembling your own Avengers squad or cheering for your favorite team, remember: your choices define your narrative. To my fellow people who've already decided to be child-free, here's to the child-free life – where every day is a new adventure, and the only tiny feet I hear are those of my fabulous shoes hitting the pavement. Here's to living a life as exciting as any MCU blockbuster, with endless possibilities at every turn and the resilience of a true Ginebra fan.
Because at the end of the day, I just want to enjoy my life as a rich, cool tita-ninang, as if this is my last reincarnation.
thanks for reading my first blog! i appreciate it. jan lang kayo, sana wag kayong mawala hahaha!
at oo, alam kong madaming references about my favorites. siningit ko lang talaga ang mga ‘yan para relatable sa buhay ko. bakit ba! hahaha!
